test(shm): add comprehensive unit tests for shared memory

- Test low-level API (acquire, get_mem, release, remove)
- Test reference counting functionality (get_ref, sub_ref)
- Test high-level handle class interface
- Test all handle methods (valid, size, name, get, etc.)
- Test handle lifecycle (construction, move, swap, assignment)
- Test different access modes (create, open, create|open)
- Test detach/attach functionality
- Test multi-handle access to same memory
- Test data persistence across handles
- Test edge cases (large segments, multiple simultaneous handles)

Author: mutouyun