Bump arrow and grpc version (#11008)

* Bump arrow and grpc version

match with neo4j version

Co-authored-by: Max Kießling <max.kiessling@neo4j.com>

* Bump protobuf

align version also used by Arrow

Co-authored-by: Max Kießling <max.kiessling@neo4j.com>

* Update clear dev cache script

* Pin protobuf version to 4.x

spiffe still uses 3.x.
However, it seems as if Arrow also manually overwrote the protobuf version to 4.x. as `grpc-protobuf` depends on `protobuf-java` 3.X

* Downgrade SPIFFE

There seems to be a bug in the latests release spiffe/java-spiffe#347

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Co-authored-by: Max Kießling <max.kiessling@neo4j.com>

Author: FlorentinD

gradle/libs.versions.toml

@@ -36,7 +36,7 @@ memoryfilesystem = "2.8.0"
 mockito-junit-jupiter = "5.13.0"
 opencypher-front-end = "9.0.20210312"
 picocli = "4.7.6"
-protobuf = "3.25.3"
+protobuf = "4.30.2"
 qala-datagen = "2.5.1"
 record-builder = "42"
 reflections = "0.10.2"